Jealous

Kenapa harus cemburu? Terus ngapain harus cemburu? Penting emangnya hari gini cemburu-cemburuan? Ya well..

Apa itu definisi jealous?

Jealous is an unhappy or angry feeling of wanting to have what someone else has. Or an unhappy or angry feeling caused by the belief that someone you love (such as your boyf/girlf or husband/wife) likes or is liked by someone else.

We all get jealous, don’t we? Actually, no, not everyone experiences jealousy as an emotion. I don’t get jealous. That’s a weird thing to read, isn’t it? Well, it’s a weird thing to say, too. But it’s true. I don’t experience jealously as an emotion. I experience sadness, happiness, anger, euphoria, and a plethora of other emotions, but not jealousy. Why? Because, unlike many emotions, I can choose to not experience jealousy.

You know.. because, at the end of the day, jealousy is never useful. Many negative emotions can be useful (pain tells us something is wrong, fear tells us to look before we leap, etc.) but jealousy, no matter how jealous we get, will never help. Jealousy is a wasted emotion, it only hurts you. It never affects the object of your jealousy. Jealousy equals not trusting the person you are with. If a guy tells me he is jealous, well it's over. You either trust me or you don't. There is nothing more pathetic than seeing a grown man/woman get all bent out of shape because their partner speaks to another person of the opposite, or in some cases same sex.

Get over it, if they want to be elsewhere, they will do it! No matter how watchful and controlling your pathetic attempts at keeping them from other people are. As long as your man/woman knows your value there is no reason to be jealous.

Ya mungkin enggak 100% do not feel any jealousy at all. It’s how you deal with that jealousy that matters. Maybe I can absolutely feel jealous but I recognize it for what it is and never ever take it out on my partner. I get jealous but I know how to deal with it in a non-destructive way.

I've always believed jealousy is closely tied with someone's self worth. Most people who're jealous of their significant others feel that way cause they don't think they're worthy of their significant other and that she or he might leave at any minute when she or he realizes how unworthy the person is. Sad, but true. And jealousy can be overwhelming for the person who feels it and totally unbearable for the party for whom it's felt. Talk about a wasted emotion. You end up driving the person away just cause you're stifling the crap out of them.

Almost always, it eats you up from the inside and sometimes even makes you feel anger towards the other party for not being considerate of your feelings. I think caring is totally fine and wonderful, and it involves being there for the other person, feeling happy and angry and sad with them. Sharing laughter and making memories, being a shoulder on which to lean. Helping out, lending an ear. All these are acceptable and all show that you care. But jealousy, well that's a waste.