I Find It Cute When Boys

* Have a half smile
* Make weird face
* Laugh
* Say "aww"
* Bite their bottom lip
* Tell you how they really feel
* Ask how your day was
* Lick their lips
* Make that sexy half smirk
* Are confident, not cocky
* Smile when they see you
* Are funny
* Make you laugh uncontrollably
* Know your little quirks and love you for them

* Are honestly proud of you
* Always put an arm around you in public
* Run their fingers through your hair
* Let you mess with their hair
* Call you beautiful or adorable instead of hot or sexy
* Play video game with you and let you win
* Let you pick the movie
* Open their arms expecting a big hug
* Refuse to let you go from a long hug
* Give you flowers or chocolate
* Are good with children
* Just look in your eyes and don't talk
* Reminds you everyday that he loves you
* Notice little things about you
* Make you feel like you are his world
* Smell good

Ted

Hello, tanggal 20 September nih! Hari ini ada PEMILUKADA DKI Jakarta, calonnya ada Foke-Nara dan Jokowi-Ahok, okey gue ga bermaksud membahas politik juga sih di blog gue, cuma agak excited aja sama pemilihan kali ini hohoho. Oh iya, tadi gue nonton film Ted, filmnya aneh, bicaranya kasar, 1-10 gue kasih nilai 6.9 deh :p

Jadi di film itu nyeritain tentang seorang anak kecil bernama John Bennet yg enggak punya teman, sehingga waktu orang tua nya memberikan hadiah Teddy Bear pas hari Natal, ia mengharapkan supaya boneka tersebut hidup agar ia punya sahabat. Dan ‘criinnnggggg’ permohonannya John ini dikabulkan, si Ted alias boneka Teddy Bearnya John hidup dan jadi best friend forever. Tapi hal ini jadi masalah waktu John beranjak dewasa, John punya pacar bernama Lori Collins dan sudah bersama selama 4 tahun, Lori ini nggak begitu suka sama kehadirannya Ted, karena menurut Lori dengan kebiasaannya Ted, John menjadi enggak maju dalam hal kedewasaan dan juga karirnya. Yah pokoknya singkat cerita si John ini dikasih ultimatum buat berubah tapi ga berubah-berubah, akhirnya Lori kesel dan mutusin si John, si John desperate, dan oleh bantuan si Ted akhirnya mereka bisa balikan lagi, tapi melalui proses panjang, dan gue males ngetik ceritanya wkwk kalian nonton sendiri lah ya.. Hehehehe peace!

Dan again, lagi-lagi...................... gue sangat mempertanyakan, benarkah seorang pria bisa sebegitu desperatenya karena ditinggal seorang wanita?????????

Petrichor, Hujan dan Kamu

17 September 2012, jam 23.11 di jam handphone gue. Sekarang lagi hujan, dan gara-gara hujan gue jadi terinspirasi untuk membahas tentang ‘Petrichor’, atau yg biasa kita sebut sehari-hari ‘bau hujan’.

Petrichor adalah aroma hujan di tanah kering. Kata ini tersusun dari bahasa Yunani, petra yang berarti batu dan ichor artinya cairan yang mengalir dalam pembuluh darah para dewa dalam mitologi Yunani. Bau berasal dari minyak yang dipancarkan oleh tanaman tertentu saat masih kering, kemudian diserap oleh tanah dan batu. Selama hujan, minyak dilepaskan ke udara bersama dengan senyawa lain, geosmin, menghasilkan aroma khas yaitu Petrichor.

Mungkin kalo ditanya hal apa yg paling gue suka dari musim hujan, ya itu.. Petrichor! Yg selalu gue tunggu-tunggu setiap harinya dari September sampe Maret. Petrichor, hujan, gemericik air, selalu sukses menghipnotis gue ke dimensi lain, memutar semua memori, seperti ada layar besar di depan gue dan kenangan gue adalah proyektornya, dan semua terputar kembali, kenangan indah maupun jelek semuanya tergambar jelas dan sukses membuat gue melamun untuk beberapa lama. Seperti sekarang. (FYI: sambil ngetik tadi gue sempet bengong 15 menitan. Hahaha. HAH APA?? GAK YEE!! GUE GA GALAU!!!!)

Kenapa gue suka banget sama hujan dan Petrichor? Umm.. refreshing pikiran, bikin tenang, rilex, dan yg anehnya adalah setiap gue cium bau Petrichor, selalu ada perasaan kangen, entah kangen sama senyawa ini atau sama seseorang, yg pasti perasaan kangen ini bikin hati gue hangat, dan berharap Petrichor jangan cepat-cepat pergi.

Petrichor datang saat mau hujan, sedang hujan, dan setelah hujan beberapa saat. Setelah itu Petrichor ga tercium lagi. Lalu saat mau hujan, Petrichor kembali datang, membawa perasaan yg sama setiap kali kita menciumnya. Sama kayak cinta ya, saat baru deket, jadian, dan sehabis putus, perasaan cinta itu ada. Setelah itu kita berusaha move on, dan merasa cinta itu sudah enggak disana. Tapi waktu dihadapkan kembali sama orang itu, ternyata cinta itu ga kemana-mana, perasaannya masih sama setiap kali kita melihatnya. Haha lucu ya, tapi ini cerita tentang Petrichor, Hujan, dan Kamu.

Who, Or What, Are You Falling In Love With?

Gue reblogged ini dari blog nya om Henry Manampiring, bagus buat dibaca, good thought :) check it out guys..

After so many years observing people (and myself!) in the complicated game of love, I can say this: often times, you don’t fall in love with a person. You fall in love with something else.

Most often, people fall in love with their own imagination of the perfect man/woman. You meet somebody, you barely know him/her, and then you start imposing your own ideals of a soulmate onto the person.

Problem begins when the illusion starts to shatter, and you start to see ‘the real him/her’. And tragically, you accuse the person of ‘having changed’ – although it was your own eyes which finally opened.

Often times, people fall in love not with a person, but a “way out”. You are feeling lonely, you just don’t want to be alone and miserable, and you see this person as a ‘solution’. Then, you are falling in love with the solution to your problem, not with a person.

Some people fall in love with “agenda”. You have made plans for your life: when to find a partner, when to get married, when to have children, etc. And then you see this person as the fulfilment of your life’s “Outlook calendar”. Again, you are falling in love with your life schedule, not with a person.

Some others fall in love with “therapy”. You were broken inside, you have mental scars, you have childhood trauma. And then you find this person whom you think can cure you. Then, you are falling in love with the therapy for your own soul illness, not with a person.

And few lucky ones, find that one person, see his/her true soul, and fall in love. Few lucky ones, fall in love, with a person.

What Can I Say

"Emang cowok bisa galau ya?"

"Emang cowok bisa kangen?"

"Emang cowok pernah pusing sama perasaannya?"

dan masih banyak 'emang-emang' yang lain yang gue tanyain ke temen-temen cowok gue dan berakhir dengan perdebatan. Mereka enggak terima gue terkesan meremehkan kaum mereka, seolah mereka robot dan ga punya perasaan HAHA ok, I'm sorry about that.. but..

"I need to believe love can last.." kata gue sambil natap salah satu temen gue yang paling kesel sama pertanyaan gue.

"Ya, tapi kan ga semua salah cowok juga, enggak selalu cowok kan penyebab love can't last?" jawab temen gue itu sambil ngelus kepala gue pelan.

I don't know, it just................... um, yaudahlah, what can I say..

Marriage In My Eyes

What's in your mind when you heard word "marriage"? Wedding party, living together with your partner, sharing life & house, have kids, become a husband/wife, etc. Yeah, that's all about marriage, and that's what people think about marriage. In fact,  now, I think marriage is more known as legality. Legality for living together,  legality fot having sex, legality for having kids (without people around us murmuring gossip about you). As I understand now, marriage is more like just a piece of paper with your signature on it from religious affairs office. 

"Marriage is just a piece of paper." (Bella Swan, Eclipse, 2010)

Understanding of marriage become too shallow now. Most people think that when we get that sacred paper we have a "great complete perfect" life because we just married. But marriage is not as simple as like that, marriage is more like spirit and soul. The most important thing in marriage is not the legality paper, but the unite between two hearts, two minds, two soul, two body, the feeling of connection, feeling of togetherness, not only about love. 

Now I understand why our ancestors always said that marry when you're ready. Yes, get married when your ready, when your soul ready to meet another soul, when your ready to merge your soul with your partner soul and make a wonderful connection. You're ready not just because you bored to be alone, not just because you want sex, not just because you want a baby, not just because you catch by an expired date of your uterus, not just because your religion told you to do that.

So what do you think? Which one is more important? Legality or the merge of the soul?

I guess you know my answer :)

GBU.

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I always need someone to talk to, sometimes it is hard to find one, so I talk to myself and let things jump around in my head, wonder about this and that on my own. 

You know, one of those days when things go absolutely out of your control and all you need is a switch button to turn everything off wishing that it would solve all problems. 

I'm Worth A Lot

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking,
"Do you really want to know?". Reluctantly, he said, "Yes".

She began to expound,
"As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'"

The man looked at her.
Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, "I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man..

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster..

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden..

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded..

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man..

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God..

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive... he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him... He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself".

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, "You are asking a lot".

She replied, "I'm worth a lot".