Am I Going To Regret This?

I’ve realized lately how easy it is to regret something you’ve done in your life. Whether it is a simple decision you made or if it was life altering, you never really know the effect is going to give you until quite sometime after. Well, I am not really a person of regrets, as much as I hate how cliche that sounds, I think that every little thing happens the way it’s supposed to for a reason we may not see at the time but will come clear to us eventually.

And I’ve found myself asking the question: “Am I going to regret this?” more often than I ever have lately before I do something. Yet, I have also noticed that sometimes I take a risk not caring how it will affect me later, simply because life is short and you should take some risks.

If I have any advice to offer about decision making, I would definitely recommend taking a second to think about the effect that it will have on you. You’ll find yourself more at peace when you know that you took the time to contemplate what the right thing to do is.

Oh, and if you are thinking about a specific decision you need to make while reading this, which I know you are ;) I think you should take the risk, because frankly it’s better to live and learn. No one’s perfect, remember that.

It’s crazy how your entire future is made on small decisions you make every day.

There are Those Days...

There are those days.. ah, just those darn days! Nothing works as planned, or even worse, everything works exactly the opposite. And there’s no plan B, C, or D, for that matter. You see no way in which things can get better and the deadline was yesterday. You hate that ringtone you used to love, just because it’s stuck in your brain non-stop now and you can’t even tell when it really rings or it’s just your imagination.

Best thing you can do is go home, turn off the phone and grab a good book. Get comfortable in bed. This is what I do. It works. For a short time, but it does. Otherwise you might be tempted to cook and burn down the kitchen, or shop and spend all your money. Or maybe accept that dating invite from God, He knows whom you’ve been hiding from.

Dear You

When you ask me how my day was, I love it when you actually LISTEN. And I really love it when you come up behind me and put your arms around me when I'm sad, or stressed, or having a bad day.

I want you to buy me little gifts, just because. A single rose. A surprise Strawberry Cheese from Starbucks.

I want you to have goals and dreams and ambition. You don’t have to have tons of money or drive a fancy car or shower me with extravagant gifts…but I want you to be passionate and driven to achieve something. I want to know that you’re willing to challenge yourself and reach for something greater. Even if you don’t catch it. (I’ll be there even if you don’t catch it).

I want you to have your own space to grow and become and dream. I want you to respect my space to grow and become and dream. I don’t need to be with you every single second of every single day. I want there to be healthy spaces in our togetherness.

I want you to be my best friend, my safe haven, my calm in the storm, a shoulder to cry on, the killer of the spiders, the assembler of bookshelves when the only instructions that came with them are in Greek.

(Important): I want you to love God more than you love me. I want you to seek Him more than you seek me. I want you to pray with me, and worship next to me in church, and remind me of how much God loves me when I’ve forgotten.

Goodnight

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I'm an Old-Fashioned Gal ;)

I went out with a guy and was expecting to opening my own car door because you don't expect guys to do that these days. But he opened it and that made me realize that there are good guys in the world and that chivalry is still around in 2014. Haha. Lebay ya? Well tapi, gue bener-bener tersentuh sama hal-hal kecil kayak gitu. Menurut gue hal kecil yang dilakuin dengan sikap respect itu......... it is absolutely cute and it shows that chivalry is still alive.

I know you’re probably going to drop a line on me like this: “Women are different these days. They don’t want a guy making a big fuss over things like opening a door or standing up when they sit down or leave a table.” Personally, I grew up where a girl can open her own door and having to stop and wait for a guy to do it for me is more irritating than thoughtful. But hey, every woman wants a man to at least make an effort at showing some manners. Don't worry, if a guy took me out for dinner I wouldn't think he wanted to be my boyfriend just because he opened my car door, whether it worked out or not I would just think he's a gentleman so it scores him points no matter what happens. It's just..

It's old fashioned gentlemanly behavior and it's always nice. ;)