I recently had a conversation
with a friend and she told me that it’s difficult for her to organize time to catch
up with her girl friends. Because her friends all have boyfriends and spend most
of their spare time with them. Ewwwwww. I get it. Why do girls in relationships
always forget about their friends?
If you’re in a relationship and
are spending all your time with your boyfriend, I’ll forgive you for your behavior
during the honeymoon period. Let’s say the first three months. But anything extending
after that, you must remember that you have friends. You also must make a conceded
effort to spend time with them. And the time spent with them must be without your
boyfriend. Enough said? Or do I need to paint a better picture?
Many girls fail to balance between
friends and boyfriends, and this is why things turn bitter. But this is not the
case with everyone. Even friends need to understand that every relationship needs
time and two people have to spend more time together to know each other well. At
this time, best friends may be taken for granted. But this is just an initial phase
which may pass with time.
Some girls tend to forget their
individuality. They tend to make the guy their world and drift away from the rest.
For your close friend, this definitely comes as a sudden shock, as your time and
attention have suddenly shifted to another person.
Friendship is a two-way street,
both people have to make an effort. So make sure that you show your friends that
you value them. Spend time with them. I know I sure as hell miss my friends when
they drop off the radar because they’re all loved up. I get it. I understand why.
I just want you to remember that I’m here. “Heyyy! (Waves hand to say hello).”
Why you shouldn’t ignore your
friend?
1. Just unhealthy. It is completely unhealthy to spend all your time with
one person, period. You will become a recluse, isolated, therefore stunting your
emotional growth.
2. Miss lonely. If you break up with him, you will have nobody. Your gal
pals might eventually just give up on you.
3. Cracks persist. Due to your negligence in the past, your friend might
become a bit more distant.
4. Nothing beats them. No matter how great your new guy is, nothing can
replace the bond you have with your female friends. Your gal pals can understand
and support you in a way that most men can’t.
It doesn’t have to hard. It can
be as simple as coffee on the weekend, dinner during the week or a girls night out
once a month. Your boyfriend isn’t going to disappear. I’m sure he will even relish
the opportunity to spend time with his boys.
